Why “Good Guys” Go Unnoticed When Dating Black Men

Boom, you’ve hit the nail on the head. I’m a guy and I’m constantly telling guys this. In my opinion women want a man, who knows how to please himself, knows who he is as a man and isn’t afraid to take charge of a situation. The problem is, nice guys are reading and listening too much to what women say they want, which is always a nice guy. I used to do the same
,but then I realised. It’s important to not just listen to what people say but also to watch their actions

Insightful perspectives from a young, black, educated creative

For me, the dating scene has been filled with the excessive use of dating apps like Tinder, SoulSwipe, Plenty of Fish, etc. The constant routine of swiping right and finding a match has been my approach to dating for the last few months and I must admit that the process of “trial and error” when it comes to finding “the one” is truly exhausting.

It’s not that I can’t seem to find a man because trust me, they’re out here alive and well, but the issue is finding someone who values the meaning of a committed relationship, and at the age of 24, I am finding that most people of this generation are delusional about what it means to be committed.

Image result for relationship memesDr. Gina Barreca professor of English literature and feminist theory at the University of Connecticut suggest that “commitment” is one of those gender-specific terms that gets itself all tangled…

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Baeographies: Black Love Interview

MISS REPRESENTATION

I don’t know about y’all but the subject of love, relationships, human interaction, etc. intrigues me. I’ll admit, I love to sit and watch couples and come up with scenarios about how they met. If I see a couple arguing, it’s a guilty pleasure to dissect the situation and read into what I think could be the reason for the neck rolls, fingers in the face, and side eyes. At the same time, I enjoy watching couples walk by holding hands, laughing together, feeding one another Alfredo (in a non-creepy way.) What can I say, I’m a hopeless romantic.

With that being said, I’ve always wanted to share my personal experiences dealing with relationships as well as dwell into the love lives of others and understand why we love the way we do. Therefore, what better way to understand how we love than with an interview from non-other than The Boyfriends! YAY…

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Ode to Black Love

Broken Hearts, Split Ends, and Chocolate: Life Wrapped in a Blog

Photo Credit:Truly Garesia

Dear Black Love,

You’ve shaped my greatness.

Sincerely,

The Grateful Brown Girl

Today is the day – the annual day of “love.” Engagements will happen. Flowers, cards, candy and romantic gestures will highlight social media timelines. Restaurants will be packed with lovers sharing meals and laughs. Others will be cuddled on the couch watching a movie or two. And some will be reflective of their love lives – either relishing in how far they’ve come or reflecting on where they went wrong. The scale of emotions will run at an all-time high today in comparison to other days of the year. Me, I take this day for what it is – a commercialized way of saying “I love or deeply care about you.” But I don’t brush it off or chalk it up as just a way for companies to make money off of people. I…

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