I couldn’t have put it better myself.
I couldn’t have put it better myself.
The gripes I’ve been hearing from black men about black women having too much attitude, being too demanding and too independent aren’t the fault of black women but the fact that black men aren’t being real men, taking responsibility for their actions and protecting their own women. Now we could talk all day about what being a man is, but I feel we’re all agreed that a man is supposed to protect provide and lead. If a man doesn’t do these things, he’s not a man.
“The most disrespected person on the planet is the black woman”
Black women are the most disrespected people on the planet because black men have allowed them to be. Many men of other races disrespect black women because they’ve learnt it by watching black men and don’t fear the consequences, now it’s bad enough being disrespected by anyone but worse when it comes from the people who are supposed to be holding you in high esteem and protecting you. Let me give you an example maybe you’re an Asian man, and you get disrespected by white women because of your looks, your skin or even your eyes you might feel a little down about it, but you can always be rest assured that your own women will still have love for you. Black women don’t have that assurance.
In truth when you’re a group of men who don’t protect your women and children you’re the laughing stock of the whole world, and who knows better about men protecting their women than the black man, who felt the heavy consequences of this every since slavery, most of it orchestred by the white woman or in the mind of the white men. Yes the same women black men flock to.
Why do you protect your own women? I’ve been asked this question way too many times. You protect them because if your women are demoralised the more likely they are to raise dysfunctional children who will continue the cycle of hate and resentment. The female transfers values and nurtures the next generation, whilst the male is the leader,the protecter and provider.
When black guys publicly provide and protect for white women the black female rightfully feels hate and resentment towards black men, because that protection, was supposed to be given to her, she then views those black males as her enemies, she has no incentive to be loyal because he isn’t giving her any financial or emotional support, and she will then focus all her attention on her grievances with the black male whilst the black child sits and watches and the cycle continues.
Rashid ‘Gama’ Ashiru
The Interracial Con Game by Umoja
So much of the white-racial ego is invested in maintaining the feminine supremacy of the white female that every possible measure is utilized to marginalize and minimize the sexual allure of the dark-skinned Black woman. For example, in the mass media wherever one would ordinarily expect to see Black women…alongside Black men…we instead see biracial and virtually white women.
We see this in ‘Black’ movies and white movies…in music videos and in TV adverts featuring a ‘Black’ couples. I could go on and on because the drive to maintain the impression of Black women as the least attractive goes on and on! But the mind has means of leaking its truth.
For example, because the white male imagination is so sexually preoccupied with the Black female that it sees her allegedly ‘ugly’ characteristics such as her prominent posterior and mouth…and then sees fit to elevate white women with these very same cosmetically-created traits to global icon status.
Why is this?
One reason is that it finally gives white men the opportunity to publicly obsess over the very bodily and facial traits their fragile racial egos would not normally allow when these characteristics are attached to their real racial fixation…Black women! Another reason is that it gives white women the go-ahead to seek out these preferred Black female traits surgically without being accused of ‘wanting to be ‘Black’ because their direct reference points are white women such as Kim Kardashian and Angelina Jolie.
Those who can recall the 1980s movie ‘10’ starring Bo Derek, know exactly what I mean here!
But my overriding point here is that if you examine white male behaviour closely…and that of white women…even closer…then you will see that their dark obsession…and the subject of their collective admiration and envy …is…in fact…the Black woman!
(c) Menelik Charles.
Sometimes I think black people look at white people and think they have a problem free existence because of their whiteness, living an idylic life in houses surrounded by picket fences, with the friendliest of neighbours, men coming home after a hard day at work, with their dinner on the table, served by a smiling housewife who looks sexy in an apron, and gazes lovingly at them as they explain their hard day at work, rewarding them later with a night full of passion, including lots and lots of oral sex because as we all know white women love to give plenty of oral sex, right? WRONG. Its this fantasy that has many white men running to Russia and Asian for mail order brides and why the divorce rate amongst white couples is so high with many white men feeling their white wives just aren’t catering to them anymore.
I am a black man who was brought up by a white family in a white neighbourhood, who occasionally went to see my black family so I had the best of both worlds. I’ve dated both black and white women and I can tell you from personal experience and looking around at all of the white friends I grew up, with who are dating or married to white women, that white women definitely are not more supportive than black women.
In fact. I would go as far as to say black women are more supportive than white women to their spouse, black boys and men in general.
Recently I heard one white woman go as far as to say that “white women treat their men like humans whilst black women treat their men like property”, my white friend Dave and I got a good laugh out of that one, with him claiming his ex-wife didn’t see him as property, but more as her own personal cash machine. The other was “white women don’t nag as much as much as black women”, Dave almost spat out his drink at this one stating that he had never dated a black woman but if I went to an after work drinking session or a poker night amongst men and asked the white men there if their wives weren’t nags, the men there would think I was the comical entertainment for the night.
When I hear black men say white women are more supportive than black women, it automatically makes me think that they’re weak, insecure pampered mommy’s boys masquerading as men.
I personally think some black men who feel this way, feel emasculated by ambitious black women and as a way to get back at them and to feel better about themselves create stupidity like this.
I also feel they like to compare themselves to other races and feel left behind thinking that the white women submits to the white man, which couldn’t be anymore further from the truth, white women only submit to their man, if he is a leader, has good judgement and has a plan just like most black women do, just like most women do. If not then she walks all over the man. If white women happily submitted to white men all the time, there definitely wouldn’t be any feminist movements.
What confuses me even more is how some black men think white women are supportive to black men. Now talking in general terms do white women in powerful positions help black men on the corporate ladder? you’d think after all the sexism they’ve experienced as white women they would lend a helping hand. Especially as they’ve been the main beneficiaries of affirmative action. Nope again.
Do they listen when a black man comes home after facing racism at work? Now in my experience and after talking to many black men who have dated white women the answer is a strong no, instead they were met with lines like I’m a woman I know how it feels, or get rid of that chip on your shoulder, which begs the question if it’s that bad to be a white woman today, think how bad must be for a black woman.
So back to the original question why do black men think white women are more supportive?
My take is it’s black men who grew up watching too much TV who think like this after being manipulated by the white dominated programs and movies on constant rotation like ‘The Blindside’, a movie which is portrays a white woman raising a black boy, movies and programs which rarely if ever feature black people unless it’s in a negative light or needing help. I think programs and movies like this blind black boys to the black mother in the kitchen cooking, cleaning washing and ironing their clothes, the black mother who had their back when they were wrongly accused of stealing from a shop by a racist security guard, the black mother who stood by their fathers when they lost their job and then to make ends meet took on two jobs. The type of black women who started the blacklivesmatter movement or the black women on the front line of every black movement since before and after the civil rights movement.
Now in my own experience after having dating both black and white women, black women have your back in tough situation a hell of a lot more than white women, there’s been times when I’ve been in some really rough situations, and it was my black girlfriend who was by my side no matter what, she was the one who listened intently to my problems as I explained to her about the racism I’d experienced at work or at the hands of the police a far cry away from my white girlfriend who would somehow try to make the situation about her, a trait I’ve noticed in many white women when the issue of racism comes up.
But………………There was a time when white women were really supportive of their men though………………………and that was when they were putting chains around black people’s neck. Just my opinion.
Rashid ‘Gama’ Ashiru
This is a video I found on youtube, showing black men who love black women. Much respect to Angel who created the video.
Instagram & Twitter: @Angel_IKYG
Nothing but the truth.
Black men allow this, and should be held fully responsible. I am also not condemning interracial dating.
This is just to briefly address the white women who continue to get away with weaponizing Black men, and interracial dating against Black women.
It is not uncommon to witness white women in interracial relationships with Black men. And those Black men often have terribly problematic views about Black women.
That Black women are “too dark,” “too angry,” “too hostile,” “not feminine enough,” “too strong willed,” “nappy headed,” “ugly,” and their biggest complaint is that Black women won’t submit to them.
In comparison, white women are supposedly “trophy wives,” “beautiful,” “classy,” “agreeable,” “feminine,” “docile,” and they make better partners.
Many of these interracial relationships are built only with the intention to spite Black…
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Black men and women who date and marry white people are their own worst enemies. Most of them promote the same negative stereotype white supremacist promote about black people, then these idiots wonder why they are hated, especially by the opposite sex of their race. Why can’t black men who date and marry white women do it without stereotyping and degrading black women? Why can’t black women date and marry white men do it without stereotyping and degrading black men? .And for those of you who say you don’t do it. Why don’t you fight against the ones who do it? Don’t you have the common sense to know that they are making all of you look bad?
Please accept this letter as notice of my resignation from the position of 2nd class citizen. My last day of employment was yesterday.
Unlike leaving other positions, this was an easy decision because I never asked for the job.
I never agreed to be labeled, belittled, mistreated, abused, disrespected, disregarded as worthless…you get the point.
You have been chipping away at me since I was a little girl, telling me that I was not good enough.
I never desired to be viewed as the angry black woman just because I expressed my displeasure. I am no one’s bitch.
What you think of me is not my business but yours. So the stereotypes, like the video vixen, loud mouth, mammy, Jezebel, etc. have no power over me.
You tried to brainwash me to the point that I altered my body and lightened my skin to conform to the standards…
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This is the post I have chosen for Real Talk Friday. I’m going to post an article every week.
Get Out has been the recent topic of conversation. I stumbled upon Buzzfeed’s article about 22 hidden secrets in the film and while watching the movie I came to my own conclusions from my perspective of being a Black woman. One scene that stuck out to me was when Chris accused Georgina of unplugging his cell phone from the charger and his theory for assuming Georgina was the culprit was that she could be mad that he was with Rose (a White woman). He says “maybe she doesn’t like that I’m with you, it’s a thing”. Oh really Chris? Black women spite Black men because we don’t like you being with Rose…interesting.
But something a little more relevant was the topic of conversation in the “Black community” on social media.
Today I woke up to Baller Alerts post featuring Maserati Rick’s answer to Trail’s question, “Why do black athletes…
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What is the Divine Masculine?
The Divine Masculine represents a spiritual, psychological, archetypal ideal—the best and most inspiring, elevating, and restorative aspects of masculine expression and manifestation in the universe. “He”—along with the Divine Feminine—exists on a transpersonal, universal level that manifests through an individual’s psyche and becomes thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors. (1)
I decided recently I will slow down on talking about “toxic black men”, and will speak more on the divine masculine men. Ill not only talk about identifying one, but will also giive examples. Papoose from Love and Hip Hop will be my example for today. This is one of the only men on this show you see not struggling or broken. Why? Because he knows that the more you keep your woman happy, the more increase he will receive in his own life. Her happiness is his happiness, and he has no problem expressing his devotion…
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