10 Examples of the Problem Known as ‘Toxic Masculinity’ That Already Happened

BROTHA WOLF

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What is toxic masculinity?

Pretty much, it’s a social machination that promotes and encourages men to be dominant, sexually aggressive and emotionless. In other words, it’s where males cannot be allowed to be fully human. They are taught to be a finite organism enclosed in a tight space of expectations from their environment.

But of course this has devastating consequences. Toxic masculinity is like the fuel within a nuclear reactor with a fragile ego casing. Any error or flaw inflicted on it will cause a meltdown harming and murdering other people including himself.

Toxic masculinity has a few names. Some refer it as patriarchy, hegemonic masculinity and hypermasculinity. In black and brown neighborhoods, we call it bitch-assness. In other areas, it’s called men’s activism, the manosphere or the alt-right movement. It links gun and weapon culture and women blaming in its matrix. And it rejects anyone outside of the tiny…

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Are White people our psychological parents?

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I remember when I was younger there was the sitcom Different Strokes(1978-1986).  It starred Gary Coleman,Todd Bridges,Conrad Bain and Dana Plato.  Coleman and Bridges played two black brothers from Harlem. When their mother passed away they were adopted by white wealthy businessman Phillip Drummond. Even back then they were giving us the “white savior” propaganda. Hollywood is known for giving us this type of garbage.

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Different Strokes was a huge success in the eighties. So of course Hollywood tried to duplicate it again.  They created the show Webster(1983-1989).  The show starred child actor Emmanuel Lewis. The plot was about a little black boy who lost his parents in a car crash.  They even used the same plot as Different Strokes.  They couldn’t even be creative and come up with a different storyline.  Don’t be fooled by these shows.  They were not just sweet and innocent sitcoms.  They had an agenda. It’s obvious…

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Poem: “The Black Woman” by Marcus Garvey

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In the Service of our Ancestors and African Love,
Listen Seeker, I come in peace,

“The man who will not fight for the protection of his wife and children is a coward and deserves to be ill treated. The man who takes his life in his hand and stands up for what he knows to be right will always command the respect of his enemy.” — John Edward Bruce

It was February 28, 1927 when Marcus Garvey published the below poem.  If nothing else, it’s a reminder to the Masculine Role as articulated by John Edward Bruce and referenced by myself (see “African Femininity and Masculinity.“)  The African Woman is the Mother of all Women.  The Mother of Beauty, the Mother of Health, the Mother of Wisdom.  All can refer to her as “Mother.”  And she is the African Man’s Wife.

There is Confusion of her Role and…

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Love Dance

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This narrative tells the story of two lovers through my eyes as a dancer and admirer of music, particularly 90’s R&B.  I hope you enjoy and feedback as well as constructive criticism is always welcome!

So young in the beginning, she politely accepted his hand as he asked her to dance.  As he led her to the dance floor, she thought, “I’m not his type”.  The music was so soft but yet alluring.  Something different about him, she thought.  His confidence made her head twirl and her imagination tip toed into the future, a soft bourree’ into places in her mind she would not dare share with anyone, for certain not him.  Would she dare dream that he is the ONE?

The music sped up and became a bit louder as the song transitioned into a conscious hip hop beat, making the young couples’ hearts saute with delight, and as…

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Black Men And Women Who Date And Marry White People Are Their Own Worst Enemies.

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BLACK WOMEN'S HYPOCRISY

Black men and women who date and marry white people are their own worst enemies. Most of them promote the same negative stereotype white supremacist promote about black people, then these idiots wonder why they are hated, especially by the opposite sex of their race. Why can’t black men who date and marry white women do it without stereotyping and degrading black women? Why can’t black women date and marry white men do it without stereotyping and degrading black men? .And for those of you who say you don’t do it. Why don’t you fight against the ones who do it? Don’t you have the common sense to know that they are making all of you look bad?

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Why “Good Guys” Go Unnoticed When Dating Black Men

Boom, you’ve hit the nail on the head. I’m a guy and I’m constantly telling guys this. In my opinion women want a man, who knows how to please himself, knows who he is as a man and isn’t afraid to take charge of a situation. The problem is, nice guys are reading and listening too much to what women say they want, which is always a nice guy. I used to do the same
,but then I realised. It’s important to not just listen to what people say but also to watch their actions

Insightful perspectives from a young, black, educated creative

For me, the dating scene has been filled with the excessive use of dating apps like Tinder, SoulSwipe, Plenty of Fish, etc. The constant routine of swiping right and finding a match has been my approach to dating for the last few months and I must admit that the process of “trial and error” when it comes to finding “the one” is truly exhausting.

It’s not that I can’t seem to find a man because trust me, they’re out here alive and well, but the issue is finding someone who values the meaning of a committed relationship, and at the age of 24, I am finding that most people of this generation are delusional about what it means to be committed.

Image result for relationship memesDr. Gina Barreca professor of English literature and feminist theory at the University of Connecticut suggest that “commitment” is one of those gender-specific terms that gets itself all tangled…

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