Here at foreverblackeffusion we would like to start posting people’s experiences of black love, this is an e-mail we got from Carl in London
I am a black man that has dated women of every race and I feel everyone should be entitled to have that choice, but after dating women of every race I have decided that black women are by far the best for the black man, for example when I have been been a white woman and maybe had a problem at work concerning race or being racial profiled by the police I would come home frustrated and she would never understand, saying I had a chip on my shoulder or was over exaggerating this left me even more frustrated becuase I really wanted the woman I loved to understand what I was going through, but because she wasn’t racist, she felt that no one else was citing things like post race because of Obama (yeah she said it) and I have to admit sometimes it felt like I was headbutting a brick wall. Now put this experience next to dating a black woman, I arrived home and told her about an experience at work where the boss was racist, she stopped what she was doing, made me a cup of tea and we sat down and talked about it, and she understood and even gave me some advice. I can’t even explain how good it felt to get it off my chest to the person closest to me and how comforting it felt to be understood, it just felt like a huge weight was off my shoulder, after that I felt I could go out and face the world with the love of beautiful strong black woman by my side.
Carl 32, London
photo by Carol Douglas/ Carolyn Douglas
Brazilian footballer Jô with wife Claudia Santos
AFRICAN HEAD WRAP
GÉLÉ IS the Yoruba word for a head tie or a head wrap. It is an elaborate head tie that has great cultural and historical significance to the Yorubas of Nigeria and indeed to many other African communities.
It symbolizes status, which can include class, marriage and the harmony that exists between a husband and wife in their home, history (in Ijebu, a city in south western Nigeria, a specially dyed purple gèlè is worn by grandmothers to signify the birth of a child) and fashion.
It’s gloriously eye-catching design makes it a must have fashion item at traditional events like weddings. And it’s no surprise that it has earned the name “jewel of headties”– a fact that is alluded to in Yoruba proverbs. When tied well it is seen as a crown, something majestic.
And like a scarf, it can be also be casual or elegant.
Gèlè has been increasing in popularity over the years.
The Jeremy Meeks a convicted felon, who was arrested on five weapons charges and one gang charge in California attracted a whole host of women because of his handsome face in a poilice mug shot of a Northern California attracting more than 33,000 “likes” and drawing comments praising his high cheek bones, chiseled face and striking blue eyes.
Capitalizing on his quick rise to Internet fame, Meeks’ mom, Katherine Angier, has set up an online fundraising campaign so far they have raised just over $4,000.
Angier hopes to raise $25,000.
“He has a job and … He was on his way to work. With no gang affiliations as per two of the charges,” Angier wrote on his fundraising page. “He has old tattoos..which causes him to be stereotyped. He’s my son and I’m just trying to raise funds to help him in anyway. Please help him to get a fair trial or else he’ll be railroaded.”
I have to be real here, women have hit a new low with this one. So regardless of what he’s done because he has a pretty face women want to pay for him to be out on the street. WOW.Some women even think he’s so hot they’ve photoshopped his picture on to fashion adverts.